Why Social Media Make Us Feel Crappy

20 Jun 2014 Comments Off on Why Social Media Make Us Feel Crappy , , ,

I realize the irony of this post since many of you will find it through a social media site.

Social media has taken keeping up with the Joneses to a whole new level. I have had countless clients and friends talk about feeling worse about themselves and where they are at in life AFTER spending time on Facebook. Since people choose what they want to share on these sites, they are inherently skewed toward bragging and stretching the truth. Spending half an hour looking at other people’s perfect babies, homes, partners, bodies, etc. is bound to make us feel inadequate. But, guess what folks? Not all of it is real. No one posts about cleaning up their babies poop all day, finding out their partner is still texting the ex, or that their roof is going to cost $10,000 to re-shingle. Life is hard, and people only post the sexy stuff, making their lives seem idyllic. They are not.

We all have good days and bad days; we all have great moments and terrible ones. Social media has become a place where we seem to unconsciously go on to brag. It doesn’t have to be that way; we can use it as a place to support each other, raise awareness about world issues or even learn things. At one point, a study came out saying that 70% of women felt worse about their bodies after reading fashion magazines. I know many people who revolted. They stopped reading them altogether, started boycotting particularly inflammatory companies and started raising awareness about the fashion industry’s impact on self-esteem and body image. Making a choice is even easier now since we are the content creators who control what is posted in social media. We decide what we share, and when we decide to start being more real and open (with appropriate boundaries, of course), we start making it easier for our friends and acquaintances to do the same. 

If you think this is something that is overwhelming you on a regular basis it may be time to log off your twitter, facebook or instagram account and start living in the moment. If you need tips on how to cope with these changes it may be time to see a skype counsellor or online therapist.